Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. ~ Albert Einstein
My 5-yr old was throwing tantrums that might include hysterical crying along with shouting/screaming, slamming doors, throwing belongings, hitting us, etc. Those were the extreme situations, but, unfortunately we couldn’t say they were uncommon over the past 2 years. He would often talk back to and disregard me more so than my husband. I became accustomed to picking my battles, resigned, frustrated, exhausted, and utterly dismayed by parenthood. Through Terry’s coaching, I realized that “picking your battles” is just an excuse for avoiding or ignoring the situation because you don’t know how or what to do to change it. I learned the hard way that ignoring bad behaviors doesn’t make them go away. My 2-yr old was throwing frenzied tantrums and exhibiting aggressive behaviors toward us, his brother as well as the kids and teachers at the daycare/learning center. His constant screaming and shouting at home was literally driving us all crazy. As the months progressed, his behavior seemed to get worse despite our best efforts to find solutions online, talking with other parents and collaborating with the staff at his daycare. My husband and I felt increasingly frustrated, angry, unhappy, out of ideas, and literally, at our wits end. Even our relationship began to suffer. This was not how we envisioned our family – this was the type of family we used to look at in restaurants and stores, at gatherings or on TV and say, “Those kids are terrible! We’ll never let our kids act like that.” And suddenly, to our dismay, we were THOSE parents and these were OUR kids! We needed help, fast. With Terry’s guidance, we addressed the boys’ behaviors with a fresh perspective and a new set of tools. We saw a difference within the 48 hours. Terry’s techniques are effective, and the results are immediate and obvious. The difference now is that when a situation arises we are consistent, in control and confident instead of stressed out and angry. Before Terry arrived at our house, my husband and I felt like our stress level was at a 10! Now, our stress levels range from 1-5 with most days at a 0. The return on investment has been the health and happiness of our family! These days the boys may act out occasionally, but we are confident and in control of every situation. Now we’re on the same page in terms of how we parent as well as what we expect from the kids, and the boys know that their behaviors have consequences, good or bad. The confusion has been replaced by respect and understanding. There’s no more guessing game … “well, maybe this will work” or “just ignore it and maybe he’ll stop.” I’m also happy to say the screaming and shouting has stopped. My husband and I can actually have a conversation while the boys are awake and playing rather than waiting until they are in bed to catch up with each other. And we can actually have conversations with our kids, too. Now we’re actually enjoying spending time as a family! The purpose of any coach is to help you improve your game. That’s exactly what Terry did for us – helped us improve as parents by using techniques that actually work. And now we’re all winning! Not just winning back control and confidence, but also strengthening our familial bond. To us, that’s priceless.
Gena and Mike Faas
"Thank you again for offering the Parent Workshop here at Little Shepherds Preschool, I have heard from the families that attended and they had many positive things to say about it. One said, "She didn't make me feel guilty, she just stayed positive and helped me see things in a better way."
Sue Miller, Director
Our parent coaching session with Terry Manrique was exactly what we were hoping for. At first we were nervous about someone coming into our home to evaluate us as parents, but with her expertise and professionalism, we were able to be at ease with our normal routine. With just a few tweaks to our discipline style, we were amazed on how quickly our children learned to cooperate. Additionally, Terry was able to work with my son in his school setting and help us to understand his daily routine in Pre-K. We would highly recommend Terry because there is no manual on being a parent, having an outside consultant can only make parenting a bit easier.
Shanna and Dan Draper
Our time working with Terry as our parent coach was eye opening, we wish we would have contacted her sooner. Our child acted out in ways that were harmful to herself and sometimes violently toward us. As a family we were very stressed day in and day out. Since working with Terry we now have the tools to help our child and work with her in a more positive manner. Each day gets better and better and we are much more relaxed. I would highly recommend Terry to any parent in need of help.
Our 4 year old daughter is smart, strong-willed, and stubborn. She resisted toilet training for nearly 2 years. We tried everything, and by everything, I mean everything – even our pediatrician was out of ideas! We hit a breaking point where we knew we needed help. We found Terry through a friend who met her at a networking event. After the consultation, Terry was confident that she could help. She stepped right in, addressed the issues head-on, and we saw results within 3 days. She was flexible with her schedule, always available for us, and more importantly, she regularly encouraged us that we were doing the right thing for our daughter and for our family. We also have a 6 year old son & 3 month old baby. She offered advice on the baby’s schedule and tactics that work with our son. It was well worth the investment to resolve the issues and feel in control as other issues arise.
Kari and Eric Sanders
"Effective! Easy ways to curb behavior especially because children learn differently. Terry gave lots of examples on how to decrease unwanted behaviors."
"Terry helped put things into perspective, gave guidelines, encouraged interaction. Never appear threatening or negative with parents."
We were dealing with our 4 year old son and 20 month old daughter when it came to the evening after being at work all day. Terry quickly accessed our situation and was able to redirect us in dealing with the children. Within 24 hours the children began to respond to her ideas, suggestions and methods. She assisted me as a mother in understanding that it was ok to take control of our lives. I would highly recommend Terry for all families that may be having struggles with home life, getting kids to follow directions and have smooth transitions.
Billi St. Clair
Our coaching sessions with Terry were extremely helpful because they allowed us to establish a consistent way to approach the behavior issues we were having with our son. We were amazed at how quickly Terry was able to identify and teach us techniques that made a dramatic difference in our son's behavior. We learned the power of consistency and how to take a different approach to situations that we typically negotiated on to avoid "meltdowns". Terry was both extremely professional and likable in her approach to us and our son, which allowed us to feel at ease with her and to trust her to show us techniques that were sometimes uncomfortable for us to watch or execute, but were highly effective in producing positive results. We would highly recommend Terry for her expertise and experience in helping parents to develop plans that parents can use to help them make positive changes in their children's behavior.
Tabby and Robert Samuel
"We asked Terry to help our three year old son because he was having difficulty transitioning from activities and also having trouble separating at bedtime. Even though our son was a very happy child and did not have these problems on a consistent basis, the few times it would happen were troublesome. The worst part was that we were not sure how to best handle it going forward. After a particularly bad week, Terry noticed and asked if we wanted her help. We couldn?t have been happier! After only one observation session and another active session, Terry gave us some suggestions that have helped tremendously for these specific situations as well as a general plan for helping our son on a daily basis. She also presented her ideas in a nonjudgmental, supportive way which helped us better understand our son's actions. She even followed up with us and was willing to give us more help if we needed it. I would strongly recommend her and will be calling if we need help in the future."
Terry recently spoke with our MOPS group and it was so beneficial! Not only was she able to share her faith as part of her talk, she was able to give applicable advice to our moms on the spot! I loved how Terry didn't just talk to us; she got the ladies to participate and interact with her by sharing some of their current parenting struggles. I personally felt like I learned so much just in that short time window that I was able to take home and implement immediately. Even a few weeks later, I find myself thinking about the things she taught us and how my behavior and reactions affects my child's behavior and reaction. I highly recommend Terry and feel that she helped me be a better mom!
Coordinator Adrienne Shonkwiler , Westerville Christian Church MOPS
Terry, We were so happy this past weekend while we worked outside with our son. We love to go outside, and he does too. In the past it was such a challenge with him running off and not listening that we all ended up miserable. Not now!! We had so much fun. He came back to us whenever we asked him to, and he stayed in the areas we requested. We had such a great time. He got to splash in mud puddles and he helped us trim up some brush and even carry it away. (big helper) Brandon and I were so excited and we kept telling each other how happy we were that you came and helped us. He went on and said that these were the experiences he has been looking forward to since our son was born. It was such a wonderful and special time. Thank you so much for helping us have this.
"It was great! Terry gave us good pointers and education to help me be a better parent. I wish it were a longer presentation! It was well worth my time. Terry gave me lots of things to think about."
"Eye opening and informative! Helped me handle negative physical behavior. It is better for parents to hear this when their children are younger, I wish I did."
"We were having a particularly difficult week with our two-year-old son, who was throwing tantrums, refusing to cooperate, and was getting so angry he was making himself sick. Terry offered to help us and we gratefully accepted. Terry came over to our house for two nights in a row to observe our family and to offer insight and run interference. Although I was initially worried about letting someone observe our private family life, Terry was incredibly friendly, non-judgmental, and unobtrusive. At the end of each night, she gave us valuable insight into how our son operates and offered us a host of individualized tools to use that have made our interactions so much smoother and easier. For example, on the second night of her visit, Terry helped us try out a new strategy for preventing my son from making himself sick. It worked immediately, and we have used it consistently since then and always been successful."
"I would tell other parents that it really helps to stop and reflect on how you are parenting. It helps to have someone who is objective give you tips! I really enjoyed this presentation :)"
"It really helps! Terry gives you hope, calms you down, gives you ideas and stories to prove these ideas are effective. It's deep and touching with the stories she shares. If your a parent struggling, your not alone. Terry gives you parenting tips and teaching tips. I learned I make a big difference."
"If you are willing to pay to take your kids to dance, sports etc. and if you are willing to spend money at the spa or movies. Why wouldn't you spend it on making your life easier to help yourself and your children?"
"Terry comes from a place of compassion, not judgment. This could help with your family and overall happiness of the household!"
"Terry is so informative and knowledgeable about early childhood that any question I asked she immediately answered them as well as had statistics and examples."
Our time working with Terry as our parent coach was very helpful. My main reason for reaching out to Terry was my lack of confidence as a mom. I felt like I was quick to get aggravated with my children, and from there, I didn't know the next best thing to do to help them be their best. I would get frustrated when they wouldn't listen, but more so, I would get very upset with myself for not knowing a better way to communicate. I truly felt, and still feel, like the problem was mine and if I knew how to relax and not overreact to situations, our whole family would communicate better. We were amazed on how quickly Terry was able to see this, too, and she gave me a different way to approach daily life. Terry helped me to stop beating myself up. She helped me to feel emotionally "right-sized." I was in charge, but I was also happy. I could feel strong, but not feel angry. I could be confident, but not be arrogant. I could be consistent, but compassionate. She made me realize I was taking things very personally. There are several things we learned from Terry, but one that stands out the most was learning to see my children's intentions and recognize when they were truly not listening versus struggling to figure things out for themselves. Without Terry’s help, I would not be a very happy mama. I'm so grateful that Terry was there to provide positive and professional guidance. We would highly recommended Terry because she is incredibly professional and she provides real tools for real life. I have great kids, and now I have great tools to be a better parent.
"Very helpful in understanding how children "work". Will help me with staff communication, incentives, praise, etc."
Terry is amazing! She's the perfect mix of professional and personal so inviting her into our home to help with our out-of-control son was easy. And in less than 2 weeks, we're seeing results. We never knew our home could be this calm and happy! The parenting lessons she taught us truly empowered us. With our restored confidence, we're regaining control which means we're more relaxed and therefore, the kids are relaxed. The best part is instead of fearing what's to come from my 3 year old, I now have the skills to turn a potentially stressful situation into a learning opportunity for my son. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU, Terry!
Stephanie and Brandon Jones
We were so happy to have Terry come to our home and help assist us in regards to the struggles we were having with our 2 yr old son. She was very professional and she made us feel comfortable with her presence in our home. Our son loved her immediately. She successfully helped us refine our parenting techniques and create boundaries and rules for both ourselves and our son. This was a wonderful experience for us and also proved very educational. Terry not only gave us instruction on how to interact with our son, but she explained why we were doing the things we were doing and what we could expect in the future. We highly recommend Terry to other parents because having balance within your home is very important and Terry can help you achieve that.
"The information that you learn about and share is good for all age ranges. It is eye opening and very positive! You definitely will not leave feeling like a bad parent, but a more competent parent!"
"I learned I'm not the only one with these common parenting problems. Terry gave me the advice I needed to get my child to sleep in their own bed. Setting routines on a daily basis for your children."
"I would tell other parents that it really helps to stop and reflect on how you are parenting. Great tips for encouraging parents to take control of their kids and give them positive praise."
As a recently divorced mother of two girls, I reached out to Terry after meeting her at one of her seminars, hoping to get some advice on how to move forward as a single parent. After a few sessions with our family, Terry was able to provide feedback, concrete advice and techniques to help me use boundaries, and be consistent with my girls as they adjusted to a new life and a different schedule. Terry’s help was very valuable and I would recommend her to anyone who is in need of parent coaching. Her approach is both warm and matter of fact when it comes to the ‘ins and outs’ of being a confident and a consistent parent. Thanks again Terry!
Lisabeth Babson, Ph.D, CRC
Terry, thank you again for everything you brought to this home. We appreciate it more than you know. Most importantly I want to thank you for the confidence you managed to provide in the short time you were here. You did an amazing job helping me start to retrain my thinking patterns (I know they will take time and practice but I'm happy to at least be mindful of them). Jack was given a bit more freedom and independence to hang with people his age and stay out a bit later. He absolutely floored us by consistently checking in and showing up to every mandatory, scheduled family thing ON TIME. We've been telling everyone about our experience with you. Once again, thank you.
"Terry and I have consulted together on various committees and projects. She is very knowledgeable with amazing skills as it relates to coaching parents on how to handle their children with discipline issues. In addition, she is very professional, an excellent speaker with a positive non-threatening approach to counseling parents who are stressed and having difficulty managing/balancing both work/ home and child/children. Highly recommend."
Terry came into our home with professionalism, determination, a willingness to listen, and most importantly, a plan! She really took the time to empathize with both my husband and myself, and even though some of our parenting techniques were initially different, she gave us advice that not only helped us to become more consistent with our children as a team, but also relieved some of the stress in our marriage due to our parenting differences. Our children took to her instantly, despite the new changes ahead. Kids yearn for structure, discipline, and love, and they could tell right away that Terry not only offered all of that in her technique, but that she was teaching it to us as well. I cannot thank her enough for helping us with our naptimes, bedtimes, and transitioning between one family activity to another. She is a very valuable and knowledgeable resource, and I'd recommend her to anyone looking to gain confidence as parents, become encouraged, refreshed, and empowered. You can re-balance your relationship with your child in a healthy way and create a safe and welcoming atmosphere for your child!
Stacy and Brian Driftmyer
"We are first time parents, and have been experiencing some discipline issues with our toddler. Terry offered to come to our home for some child developmental methods that will help positively mold our growing child. She arrived on a Saturday and observed a normal day and took notes. The next day, she returned with goals and instructions on how to improve our parenting skills. What I loved most about working with Terry, was her natural instincts to take charge of a negative action that the child was demonstrating and immediately remedy the misbehavior. She also gave us 10 golden rules that we will live by from here on out that are extremely value in nature. After experiencing her training days, we strongly believe all parents that are having questions or issues on raising their children should call on Terry for help and guidance. Terry knows what to do in every situation and the child knew immediately who was in charge."
Leonardo Lucio , Parents of an adopted child
"I would say that I received many great tips and ideas for my classroom. More praise and attention to a well-balanced classroom."
"I first met Terry Manrique when she was the curriculum director at a private pre-school. She hired me, and it was my very first teaching job out of college. I worked with her for three years there, and she was a great mentor for me, especially that first year. I ended up with quite the rowdy bunch of four year olds that particular year, and my classroom management skills were still a little stiff. Terry worked with me and my co-teacher to help rein in all the big personalities in my classroom so that we could have a successful year. The kids really responded to everything she suggested; I feel she has a special way of connecting with kids of all ages. I noticed that the parents responded well to her as well. They appreciated her non-judgmental and knowledgeable approach."
"It was well worth my time and money. Terry gave me lots of things to think about. I need to improve my parenting style. Need to communicate better with my kids and my husband."
We recently moved to Ohio. My daughter and I were having a local treat and I saw Terry’s brochure. I picked it up, read it, and said – Wow! I could really use some parenting advice and was excited to have found a resource. With my husband agreeing, we reached out to Terry. Terry did a great job making us feel comfortable right from the start. We have been struggling with a couple of things from our 6 year old. We could not have ever made these changes without Terry! My husband and I are the classic parents – lots of love and a little slow on staying in control as parents. Some of the best advice we received is how happy and confident children are when they have boundaries and know what they are and most importantly this equals love. Love isn’t always about a feeling; it’s about structure, rules and disciple. As parents we have to keep peace, have balance, and be consistent. If you think you need to make some changes, we highly recommend you contact Terry. Having an expert point of view helps take the anxiety away so you can focus on correcting the situation. We will use Terry again as parenting is a journey!
Aimee and Micheal Geraci
Terry Manrique teaches parents hands-on techniques in a loving and respectful manner. Her real-world approaches to parenting issues ranging from sleep problems, sibling rivalry to potty training have turned out-of-control households into a loving and happy family. Terry often finds that parents aren't communicating with each other on discipline techniques or methods. "Parents need to be on the same page," she says. I have been around her family and it amazed me how well rounded and well behaved her children were. Terry is one of the few people I trust with advice. She continues to help me with different situations involving my teenage son and 8yr. old girl. So if you realize that what you’re doing now just isn’t working. You need help from Terry! Being the caring parent that you are, you are on a mission to nail down the most effective parenting practices. Terry has helped so many families learn the best parenting strategies for handling behavioral problems. Terry Manrique is extensively trained in this area and will carefully explain the concepts involved in these techniques, and then will demonstrate them for you. You will learn how to encourage the sort of behavior that you desire, and how to reinforce those behaviors when they occur. You will also learn how to stop punishing but more effectively, provide consequences consistently, and much more. You’ll find the approach to be caring and gentle, not requiring you to treat your child in any way that you might find inappropriate. During these sessions there’s considerable practice with you and Terry acting out the parts of parent and child—so that you will be completely comfortable using these new methods at home. Terry will do a one-on-one training, she will provide you with all the parenting tools needed to eliminate misbehavior and elicit the positive behaviors you desire. With her expertise and your consistent effort, your child will soon learn how to solve problems without resorting to violence or other disruptive behavior. YES! Terry can absolutely help you establish harmony in your family and home.
"Terry gives you new ideas and helps you understand whether you are parenting correctly. It's time for us to revisit our parenting style from a professional perspective. Terry helps you understand why and how we parent is important."
Terry's advice has greatly improved our daily routine. Meal times and bed times have become much more calm and take much less time they used to. Terry offered feedback in a very constructive way that helped us develop the tools to deal with tantrums and other situations you encounter with toddlers.
Working with Terry helped show us how easy things could be with our son. It was amazing how quickly he responded to the techniques she taught us, and corrected our behavior in the process. She showed us our son was capable of so much more at his young age. After just a couple days we were able to remove all the baby gates and our son listens to us about staying in the room with or without us with him; before he would run around the house. We would recommend Terry to any parent that wants to have a rich relationship with their children.
"This was very valuable presentation and the information was very helpful. Terry did an excellent job and helped answer all the questions parents had. I feel sorry for those parents who miss out from one of her seminars."
“Terry is a wonderful resource for parents. Her consultation with our family was very informative and she helped us to realize we were not the only parents that have ever been frustrated. Her experience and gentle spirit made our family feel very comfortable and she had some wonderful tips that we could immediately use. We would highly recommend her to any parent. “
April and Jay Rhoden
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